10 Biggest Proposal Mistakes to Avoid

Avoid public proposals if your partner is shy; keep it intimate.

Don't rely on cheesy gimmicks; personalize the proposal to your relationship.

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Have a clear conversation about marriage intentions before proposing.

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Focus on emotional connection, not just Instagram-worthy moments.

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Be honest about any damaging secrets that could affect your relationship.

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Ensure the proposal reflects both partners, not just one's desires.

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Consider your partner's preferences and interests when planning.

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Prioritize vulnerability and intimacy over grand gestures.

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Discuss readiness for marriage openly before proposing.

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Make the proposal a joint effort, reflecting your partnership's values and aspirations

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